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Take Me Now Here: The Commercial Sex Industry and Feminism

April 19, 2008 · Filed Under Sex ·  

Take Me Nowhere I have very briefly touched upon my thoughts on the commercial sex industry here and basically all posts I have written on the topic have been quite popular versus the other subjects I have written about.

With the attention those posts have received and after talking to a friend of mine who runs Take Me Nowhere, a great site that touches upon some taboo subjects such as marijuana, law reform, Wicca, Paganism, The Occult and also some personal tidbits thrown in there for the hell of it, we decided that while she gives the majority of conservatives quite a bit to get pissed off about already, why not throw some sex into the mix?

And so starting yesterday, I will be writing a section on the commercial sex industry, everything revolving around the sex industry and I also plan on writing a bit about feminist-friendly sex and (gasp!) feminist-friendly sex toys and stores! I have a lot of ideas, so check out my section, Take Me Now Here over at Take Me Nowhere (ha, get it?)

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The Psychology Behind Men and Prostitutes

March 28, 2008 · Filed Under Society ·  

prostitute With cases such as Eliot Spitzer’s latest scandal, as well as other male politicians whose prostitution habits had been found out by the general public, many may be asking themselves–What drives these men to fornicate with prostitutes? Is it all men and we just happen to shed light on politicians and point fingers as if men all over the place aren’t doing the same thing? What is it about prostitutes, in particular, that drive these men crazy to the point of risking their careers and putting their families on the line?

What must first be understood is the psychological appeal of prostitutes, which is what Michael Bader of AlterNet, a person who has studied the dynamics of sexual arousal for almost 15 years, has spoken out about in order to create a sense of understanding.

When it comes to a regular relationship, it is said that men feel as if they must give a great deal to their partner in order to get a little something back. Our culture represents women as high maintenance individuals who must be cared for by a man and are otherwise helpless in life, always needing the attention and demanding the security of a man. While those exaggerations are often false, it is our society that has conditioned men to believe that this is true, making their intimate relationships suffer when it comes to a man who wishes to have his needs met and they begin to freak out and are said to be overwhelmed by what is expected of them.

It does not matter what type of prostitute a man is hiring, it can be a woman who charges over $5,000 for an hour or it can be a woman prostituting herself on the street for $50 a night, what it comes down to is that when payment is made, the man is getting his wishes tended to. It is said that while politicians, in particular, are used to wielding power and keeping people under him in check, no one is working for this man without getting something in return–and that is where the appeal of prostitutes comes in.

A prostitute serves as a slave to a man’s needs. She is an actress, although to the man, he does not care that what he is receiving for his money is a one-woman play and an act that he gets to be nothing but a prop in. This is the man’s time to shine and get whatever sexual kink he has attended to–No questions asked and no need to reciprocate. A prostitute is sought out when a man wishes to let go and selfishly indulge in his desires without having to give anything back to the woman who performs for him.

So basically, prostitution is sought out when men realize that they cannot handle what is expected of them as men and want to be entirely selfish in their actions even when what society depicts most women to be is false. Prostitutes are wanted by the men who don’t want to sexually please their wives or even care about her desires, but women can most definitely be counted on to be standing by their selfish, hypocritical and cheating men. Breaking wedding vows never needed many psychological explanations before, so here’s the Reader’s Digest version:

He does not want to be in a relationship; instead, he wants someone who will make him look like a “family man” who cares about and loves his family so he can get a few votes and make his way into office where even more stress will be put upon him. He wants this while he can also go behind his wife’s back and get his needs met while constantly complaining that his wife wants too much from him. My advice is to go out and find a man who can indulge in his kinky desires with you, while you are comfortable enough to know that he will do the same for you. Open and honest communication never hurt a relationship, either…Who knew?

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Feminism at its Finest: February 2008

February 29, 2008 · Filed Under Feminism at its Finest ·  

feminism at its finest blog carnival The February 2008 edition of Feminism at its Finest is here! Since changing this carnival from a once a week roundup to once a month, the carnival has obviously taken some form and submissions have been trickling in to form an actual list. It has also given many people the opportunity to promote the carnival, as there is now more time to make people aware of the carnival in advance.

And on to the posts…

Beth Terry presents Plastic-free sex, part 2: “Pedro offers you his protection”, saying:

“Fake Plastic Fish is an eco-blog about one woman’s campaign to significantly reduce her plastic waste and plastic consumption. This particular post deviates a bit, as it is about how using birth control, plastic or otherwise, can be the most environmentally-friendly step that heterosexuals can take. Pro-choice with an environmental slant.”

This post is at Fake Plastic Fish.

Gloria Pan presents Breast Implants: If a Woman Gives Consent, Does It Mean She’s Informed?, a post on the many, many dangers of breast augmentation, posted at Beauty and the Breast.

Hops, one of my personal favorite bloggers, presents Wherefore the hot wife?, saying:

“Revisiting the sitcom standard of “fat husband, hot wife.”

This post is at Be a Good Human.

Jenn Bazar presents A history of women and the mind doctors, saying:

“An interview with novelist Lisa Appignanesi, on her recent book “Mad, Bad and Sad: A History of Women and the Mind Doctors from 1800 to the Present.”

This post is at Advances in the History of Psychology.

Madeleine Begun Kane presents Obama’s Words - A Textbook Case Of Subtle Sexism, posted at Mad Kane’s Political Madness.

Veronica Dr. Susan Wicklund at Women & Children First, posted at posted at Viva La Feminista.

As for a few I’ve taken the liberty of throwing in myself just because 1.) I can and 2.) Who doesn’t like some free website promotion?

Cara, who runs another one of my personal favorite feminist blogs has a great post up, LA Times: Women Should Stop Bitching About the Rape that Doesn’t Actually Happen. The LA Times, rape and misogyny; good times! Check it out at The Curvature.

Courtney has a great post, The Ol’ F-Word Debate, which covers feminism, how women react to being introduced to the feminist movement and other intriguing and informative tidbits. A must-read for all feminists or those who want a little more insight into the movement. That post is at Feministing.

Debs, who is always teaching me something new, has a post of a few, different stories all depicting woman-hating. Check it out! Sometimes the misogyny becomes too much…, posted at The Burning Times.

And that’s it for this month. Thanks to everyone who submitted and be sure to submit your feminist posts for next month!

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